Ever wondered what is Self-Esteem?
By definition, ‘Self‘ means ‘One’s own‘ and ‘Esteem‘ means ‘to regard someone with respect‘ or ‘valuable‘.
Therefore,it is concluded that Self-Esteem is the value you place on yourself.
When we say someone has a high self-esteem,it means that the person holds himself as someone valuable who thinks highly of himself and considers himself worthy of respect.
Conversely,a person with low self-esteem holds poor opinion of himself,is not respectable towards himself and always criticizes himself for one thing or the other.Nothing is good enough for him because he is not good enough.
Volumes of books have been written about the subject and I will recommend some books to you to read and research to overcome the low self-esteem.
Overcoming low self-esteem takes some effort,but it’s worth it.
SOURCES OF LOW SELF-ESTEEM:
You might be wondering then,what are the sources of low self-esteem?
What causes a person to disregard himself in the first place?
Childhood.Plain and simple.
As a child,you looked up to your parents and treated their opinions as a fact because you didn’t know otherwise.You had no rationale.After all,your parents looked after you,fed you and wiped you.How could they be wrong when they said “You are no good” or ” You won’t amount to anything.Ever “.
The words,although banal and innocuous at the surface,scarred you deep.
“Iam no good…” you thought.
It was taken as an absolute truth by the sole trustworthy authority–Your parents.
It got worse when you heard them say it again when you did not clean the dishes or when you failed to live up to their huge expectations.Thus,it was imprinted in your mind-deep.
Their statements of frustrations over some other matter,were accepted as facts by you.This created a poor opinion of yourself in your own mind.
Now,don’t get me wrong.I’m NOT in any way blaming your parents or saying they weren’t good.They were,but they had flaws of their own.They had no idea that their words were really going to create trouble in your adulthood.If they knew it,they wouldn’t have done it.But again,nobody is perfect.
Now,some of you had really screwed up childhood.Maybe you were abused as a child-molested,tortured or tampered.I suggest you to consult a psychiatrist if you think you need some professional help.Rest of you,buckle up! It’s going to be an enlightening ride.
In the next article,I will tell you the symptoms of Low self-esteem and how can you assess if you have it.
Until Next Time,