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WARNING! Strong language ahead.Do not read if you are easily offended.You have been warned.
One of the topics which created a massive buzz across the globe,apart from Kim Kardashian,is the Law Of Attraction.
In this article Iam going to inform you about what Law Of Attraction is,share my experiences with it, what it is capable of doing for you and even more importantly, what it isn’t.
Iam also going to clear up some misconceptions about LOA and how you can implement it in your life.
INTRODUCTION TO THE LAW OF ATTRACTION
Law Of Attraction (LOA) is the fancy aphorism for the concept of “Like Attracts Like.“
The Law Of Attraction is that whatever happens to you,is the result of your own thoughts and mental attitude.
It assumes that every matter,living or dead is made of ‘energy‘-pure energy, and different matter in the universe have variable frequencies of energy in them.
Even different thoughts,words you speak and even circumstances and events have different frequencies of energies inherent in them.
This is where it gets interesting…
The school of thought claims that if you happen to experience a certain life circumstance,then guess what…it’s the result of your own thoughts!The frequency of your thoughts when reasonate and match with the frequency of a particular thing outside of you,you happen to have it in your life.
So,what they mean is that-rich or poor,successful or failure,it’s all the result of your own thoughts and mental make up you adopt.
You chose to have those things in your life.
Ridiculous it sounds, when you speak it that way.
The idea of Law Of Attraction has been around for centuries,but caught heavy media attention with the release of the movie “The Secret“,produced by Rhonda Byrne, which was later released into the book written by the same.
“Remember that your thoughts are the primary cause of everything.”
DIFFERENT OPINIONS ON LOA
Opinions are like assholes…everybody’s got one,why should this be any different?
The masses are on the opposite sides of the barricade regarding LOA.
>>The people who support it and
>>The people who negate it.
Both the groups present a series of fair arguements to corroborate their views on it.
The people who speak FOR the LOA claim that their lives were dismal and hopeless before they found out the book, and that their fate took a complete hundred and eighty degree turn after applying it’s principles.
Yes,sounds like late-night TV commercials with sloppy actors who are paid minimally to fool the audience into thinking some bizarre product completely altered their abysmal lives,(which you won’t be buying anyways).
Then there are people who speak AGAINST LOA and call it a bunch of horse-shit wrapped in esoteric looking covers and marketed as snake oil.
They proclaim that shutting your eyes and thinking about being a millionaire won’t make you one.
Steve Jobs wasn’t made that way.Was he?
You must take real world action to get what it is that you want.
Being a highly skeptic person,I must say I fall into the second group of people.
I mean, come on,closing your eyes and dreaming about being successful isn’t going to make you swim in cash. You need cold hard actions to have it,as I always say.
When I first read about LOA and it’s principles,I said to myself what I always say when I see or hear something derisive:
“What kind of Assholery is this??”
But again,who am I to chuck out anyone’s work before putting it into practice and seeing the outcome of the application of it’s principles.
Therefore,I assumed it to be my duty to give it a shot, and if it fell short of it’s claims, then I will have the luxury of laughing like hyena on the faces of people who claim that the techniques of LOA brought angels on Earth for them.
Damn the torpedoes,experimental me went on to put the principles put forth in ‘The Secret’,with total skepticism.
I was like “Are you serious?? Why are you even doing this?” all the freakin time while practising it.
Don’t ask me about gory,graphic details of what I wished.I just wanted it to end.
MAGIC AND MIRACLE…
A week passed before I started seeing some results…although ‘changes’ would be a more appropriate word here.
Yes,what I asked for,was being fulfilled. But me,being a dick,ditched the incident as a coincidence.
Then the events happened again and yet again, and I kept singing the coincidence song until one day,one of my friends told me…
“Dude,I don’t know why,but everything good has been happening to you since past three days.“
( I started putting it’s principles into practice a week before.)
Something was upto and I had to figure it out.
Was it a placebo?
It couldn’t be.After all,I was a skeptic throughout and I didn’t expect LOA to work at all.
I wanted to figure out if this is the effect of LOA or just coincidences so I did the smartest thing I could do then to see if the effects were real.
Yes,I stopped practicing the principles of LOA to see what would happen.
Wanna know what happened?
The good things stopped!
It was for real….confirmed!
But what was it?
HOW THE SECRET WORKS
I thought long and hard about it and put a lot of research into it.
The Secret is not a magic pumpkin,but it has some substance to it.
The way ‘The Secret’ or any of Law Of Attraction products (there are a ton of them on the net by the way)work,is by changing our thought patterns.When you look closely enough,the tenets and practices promoted in the LOA are kinds of meditation.
The techniques of Visualisation presented in The Secret,is actually a form of meditation which acts as Positive Thinking enhancers.
In this meditation,you visualise success and prosperity flowing in your life without any obstruction.
You don’t consider failure.You belive that good things will come to you.
Our thoughts and mental attitude do have a significant impact on the way we interact with our environment and events.
If our thoughts are positive and brim-filled with optimism,everything else starts to take care of itself.
On the other hand,thoughts defiled with dark pessimism have adverse impact on us because we tend to take even positive events as no-big-deals or luck.
YOUR THOUGHTS DETERMINE YOUR ACTIONS
You will have more chances of being successful in an endeavour if you have positive thoughts about the possible outcome of the course of action you are about to take.
You won’t even care to take any action if your thoughts are polluted with negativity.
Remember the movie The Shawshank Redemption?
In case you haven’t seen the movie (I recommend that you rub your genitals with a sand paper for not having watched it),an innocent man is accused of the murder of his wife and her lover,spends twenty freaking years in the horrible Shawshank Prison and at the end of the movie,he escapes.
Right before when the escape is executed by the protagonist-Andy Dufresne,there is a scene of him talking to one of his prison inmate friends-Red.
Andy Dufresne describes in detail why one should never lose hope and always hold on to it because it is the most beautiful thing in the world.
His friend,Red,on the other hand,proclaimed that there was no way they would ever get released from prison.
The next day,Andy escaped the prison.
Red who had been a prisoner way before Andy,never even considered escaping.
Because his thoughts were sullied with pessimism.
He had a narrow perspective on what was possible.
Andy Dufresne?He was abundantly rich and free in his thoughts and his thoughts directed him to action, in this case-to dig a hole into the wall,cross half a mile of shitty gutter pipe to get away.
Therefore,if your thoughts are rooted in optimism,you will take steps to improve your life and there is a good chance that you will succeed too.
“BUT IT’S JUST A MOVIE!!”
Yeah,I listen to you.
Some of you are butt-hurt because I gave a Hollywood example.
Yeah,I do hear you screaming:
“Hollywood entertains not educates.“
Not always the case.
But anyways,if you are pushing it hard in order to prove your point,let me give you another example,and this time from real-life.
You might have heard the name- Chris Gardner (get a fresh piece of sand paper if you haven’t).
This is something he said in one of his interviews:
“We were homeless but not hopeless.There’s a world of difference.”
Here is a multi-millionaire who went from broke to beyond riches.
If his thoughts elevated him to prosperity and yours do not,the logic is to change your thoughts to mirror his.
It’s the same process as when you want to make a cake.
You follow the chef’s advice on TV, and then you emulate the entire process to get the same cake that he demonstrates and you salivate to.
Voila! Your cake is ready!
Want to become a millionaire? Emulate the millionaires.
Think like them and perceive the world around you like they do and you are on your way to become one.
WHAT LOA CANNOT DO FOR YOU
All the marketing bullshit aside,there are many things LOA, CANNOT and WILL NOT do.
In no particular order,these things are:
?LOA CANNOT MAKE THINGS HAPPEN ON IT’S OWN
If you only sit and visualise all day and don’t move your ass to action,there is no way you will get what you visualise.
The only thing visualisation can do is to PROPEL you into action and INCREASE the motivation for the achievement of goals.
So,if you are full body paralysed, then it’s not going to work.
I don’t give a damn what anybody tells you.
?IT CANNOT MATERIALISE INSTANTLY
“Hey look I visualised myself sinking into the pile of cash and guess what! In reality,I’m not!!“
Of course you wouldn’t.
You must give it sometime before you start seeing changes.
Rome wasn’t built in a day.
The worst thing you can do after applying the Law Of Attraction, is to expect it to work.
Doesn’t work that way.
Once you visualise the dreams and goals that you desire,you must release all expectations.
As long as you expect,it won’t work.
Also,the bigger the goal of yours,the more the time it’s going to take to condense into reality.
?IT CANNOT INFLUENCE ANY PERSON OTHER THAN YOU
The most important.
You cannot influence any other PERSON.Visualising about Scarlett Johanson/Enrique Iglesias visiting you and begging you take her/him out on a date is NOT going to work. Anybody telling you otherwise is trying to sell you something.
No,shamanic rituals do not exist.
Sorry about that.
You can only influence YOURSELF,your actions and your decisions by LOA which will ultimately decide how things turn out in the future.
CONTROVERSIES AROUND THE SECRET
Law of attraction has mananged to garnish a lot of controversy, and bloggers and skeptics from all over the world have exploited every opportunity to bash it to dirt by calling it the “Law Of Bullshit.”
This occurred because it failed to live up to the hype it created.
The flaw was in the marketing strategy and the promotion of the the tenets as panacea.The problem was that it explained things from the more spiritual perspective and not from the scientific perspective.
“No rules according to the universe .. you provide the feelings of
having it now and the universe will respond.”
-Rhonda Byrne,The Secret
The cosmic energies or universe granting your wishes, does infact sound like fairy tales and therefore, skeptics took their turns to humiliate the concepts of LOA unabashedly.
The theory put forward by these persons is that LOA seems to work to the ones who promote it because of a psychological concept called the ‘Confirmation Bias.‘
Confirmation bias refers to a type of selective thinking whereby one tends to take notice and look for what confirms one’s beliefs and notions, and ignore, not look for, or undervalue the significance of what contradicts one’s beliefs and prejudices.
Therefore it was given that LOA is just a pork pie of the Confirmation Bias.
Very fair and true and I too, believe that the secret of ‘The Secret’ is Confirmation Bias.
Still, I think it’s not fair to derogate an idea or ridicule it’s principles just because it explains things from perspective which is not in harmony with ours.
The techniques works.End of story.
The Confirmation Bias can be very beneficial if used in the right way,just as a knife which can be both dangerous or useful depending on the hand which holds it.
Confirmation Bias can be used to strenghthen certain helpful beliefs about ourselves.
Instead of believing, “Iam no good” and looking to prove that,it’s far better that one take control and modify and shape one’s beliefs into one that helps us.
How about installing a belief such as-“I remain calm under pressure” and solidifying it by using the same techniques?
Or how about “Iam complete and capable of achieving my dreams” and looking for it’s evidence?
All depends on how you use the techniques handed to you.
But then again,everyone was so busy roasting ‘The Secret’ that they didn’t had time to learn anything out of it.
The people who cursed the LOA, never even tried putting it into practice.They just rehashed what they read from some random article on the net and put it down for the sake of putting it down.LOA never says to NOT put any effort and keep visualising the good stuff.No,please no.Instead,it promotes positive thinking and visualisation practices to strengthen one’s belief in himself.
Read how one of the most prominent bloggers criticised ‘The Secret’:
“Another example is your love life. You might send the “thought frequency” to The Universe that you want someone who is kind and generous and thoughtful. Soon enough, you find someone who seems kind and generous and thoughtful and you’re over the moon, pissing your pants in excitement at the amaze-sauce leaking out of your new lover. But, in fact, while your new partner is kind and generous and thoughtful, they’re also kind of a fuck up. And in your “delusionally positive” mindset, you chose to overlook all of those red flags and potentially awful behaviors, and you got yourself heart-deep into a relationship that is going to be about as good for your emotional stability as Hurricane Katrina was for the New Orleans levees.”
The above quote is taken from the blog of a prominent blogger Mark Manson.You can read the entire article here and how he spits on the techniques presented in ‘The Secret’.
Even though Iam a fan,the post by him was ludicrous.
The thing about LOA is that it’s not about being blind to the events around you,but to adapt and react in your best capabilities to those events.
It’s not about explaining to yourself that your current situation is all good and great but it’s really about making yourself understand that,whatever happens,one way or the other you will be able to handle the situation.
LOA is about happiness through abundance.
The principles of LOA are seldom thought thoroughly by a major population.
The only real problem I had with the concepts in the book was the claim that “Everything that happens to you is the result of your own thoughts.”
Life is full of different probabilities of events.You can’t control every damn situation.The only governing thing is your Karma.
With the clear understanding of the LOA,it’s time to apply it to your life.
I have laid out clear steps below, so you won’t have to scan hundreds of mindless sites promoting LOA as some voodoo shit and making the whole process difficult just to promote their products (which have the secrets that Alexander,the great used to conquer the world and Cleopatra used the same to seduce hundreds of Kings).
Give me a fuckin break.
STEP 1: KNOW THY GOALS!
Without a goal in mind,you will be like a ship without a radar. You will be mindlessly wandering in the dark and will definitely end up crashing sooner or later.
You need a real plan to execute.
Write down your goals on paper!Writing your goals down on paper means you commit to them.
No more they are mere wishes, but tangible goals that you can work on and chase.You get thrill when you chase a goal of yours and you feel like you are living when you achieve them.
STEP 2: VISUALISE
With the goals written down,it’s time you create a mental movie of them.
Close your eyes,relax and start day-dreaming.
Visualise in vivid details of you having achieved those goals.
ATTENTION!! Keep in mind,you must create mental movies of you having already achieved the goals.
If your goal is to be a rock-star,don’t visualise giving auditions to become one. Visualise yourself performing infront of thousands of masses all cheering and dancing to your music.
Your goal is to own a million dollar company?
Visualise yourself being the boss of a million dollar company,providing service to millions of people.Visualise yourself walking,acting,talking like a million dollar man in a mansion,driving a monster luxury car.
STEP 3: EMOTIONALISE!
What you emotionalise becomes your reality.
And I don’t say it in a spiritual way.No.
I’m a scientific guy and from the perspective of science,what you think about and feel much of the time,dictates how you perceive the world and it’s events.
Constant depressive thoughts and imagining yourself facing failures is going to slam brakes on your successes for sure.
Likewise,uplifting thoughts and positive emotionalisation will thrust you to take risks and keep achieving.
Therefore it is said:
“Success breeds success.”
The technique of emotionalisation is based on Neuro-Linguistic Programming and it reinforces the power of visualisation.
When you visualise yourself having achieved (Remember! Having ALREADY achieved and NOT achieving) your dreams,you will feel a sensation or a feeling emerging in your body.
The goal is to produce more and more of this feeling and keep flaming it for five to ten minutes.
Let us assume,I wanted to start a blog.I would ask myself,
“How would I feel if I already were a successful blogger? “
Bingo! An emotion in my body emerges. I produce more of the sensation and relish in it.I see and feel myself having already achieved my dream.The goal is to FEEL yourself the same as you would feel if you already had achieved what you aim for.
Read the above statement once more to make sure it sinks in.It’s that important.
This is recommended to be done for five to ten minutes,although you can go as far as for twenty minutes,twice a day.
After all,it’s just meditation.
STEP 4:- RELEASE
It is very crucial that you release all expectations from the meditation.
Yes,what you are dreaming about will condense into reality and that too fast.
You must release ALL expectations.
Let go of it.
It’s a no strings attached deal.Put in the work and forget that you did something.
In my opinion, LOA doesn’t work for most people because they have their expectations high from it,and it’s not their fault.The fault is in the popularisation of the technique ( call it marketing) which promises to make people walk on water.
Therefore,majority of people end up scrutinising every damn situation for either proving or disproving it.
Let it go, man.Really.
When I practised it,I didn’t had any expectations.Neither did I wanted it to work or fail.
I was just experimenting.I really didn’t care if it did or did not achieve what it claimed.The fact is,it did.I strongly advise you to release all expectations you have from the mediation outlined in the article.
Do it,but don’t expect anything.
STEP 5: REPEAT
As I have already stated,this thing is never going to work if you do it for a day and if nothing extra-ordinary happens,you quit because frankly,nothing extra-ordinary will happen.It is a slow process.
You must do it for atleast twenty days.
Anything I learn,I put it into practice for a month before I decided if it’s worth continuing.
This could be done any moment you are free.Doesn’t require any equipment and is extremely easy.
Give it some time and play with it.
Law of attraction,according to me is great because it worked for me.
What do YOU think about it?Did it work for you?
There is only one way to know–to experiment with it decide for yourself.
The process I outlined above is the culmination of many books I have read over the years about this stuff. I have taken out fluff and provided with the best information available on the subject.Take this stuff seriously and see how things turn out for you.
Until Next Time,
My views on The Law Of Attraction were developed reading the following books (you can also buy these books by clicking on their respective names below.You will be redirected straight to Amazon for purchase on a discount :-)):
•Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
•The Science Of Getting Rich by Wallace D. Wattles
•The Psycho-Cybernetics by Dr.Maxwell Maltz
•The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
•The Inner Game Of Golf by Timothy Gallwey
•The Power Of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
•The Silva Method by Dr.Jose Silva
•The Master Key System by Charles F. Haanel
•Wishes Fulfilled by Dr.Wayne W. Dyer
•The Power Of Your Sub-Conscious Mind by Joseph Murphy