In the last article we discussed the definition and meaning of depression.You learnt that prolonged periods of despondency is the depression.Today,we are going to dig a little deeper than that and explore the symptoms of depression,because it’s very important to know the beast you are about to hunt.
With the list compiled below,you can deduce if you are depressed and also if any of your friends or family members is going through a
depressive period so you can help them out as well.
Rumination is the number one cause and maintainer of depression.
Although,to the person suffering from depression it seems as the right thing to do,it’s actually one of the deadliest operations to get involved in during depressive periods.
Wikipedia defines Rumination as:
“Rumination is the compulsively focused attention on the symptoms of one’s distress, and on its possible causes and consequences, as opposed to its solutions.”
In other words,Rumination is the continuous ‘cyclic thinking of past negative events.’
The part of what makes Rumination one of the deadliest trap you can fall into, is that you could happen to dive in it any part of the day,anytime and anywhere.
Remember the movies where they show the character driving a car and thinking about something bad that had happened to him?
THAT process of thinking your negative past events is the rumination.(He meets with an accident as a bonus :-)…oops
Note that,Rumination is NOT self-reflection or contemplation.
Self-reflection and contemplation BOTH are positive activities to practice as they allow you to see your mistakes and correct them in the future.
Rumination,on the other end of the spectrum, is thinking about the past events with tones of– should have and could have.
You think to yourself– “I ‘should have’ done that different….” or “They could have been more sympathetic towards me.“
You don’t focus on solving the problem,instead,’it becomes a relish to replay the events again and again in your head.’
So how do you exactly figure out if you are ruminating?
If you ever catch yourself repeating NEGATIVE past events in your
head,you are ruminating.
Past should be just there,in the past,gone and forgotten.If for some reason you tend to think repetitively about it in your head,you got something to deal with.
Fatigue is the exhaustion or weariness you feel after some intense physical or mental task.
Feeling fatigue after a course of tough physical or mental exertion is totally normal.
However,if you tend to feel fatigue even if you don’t involve in any severe activity throughout the day or doing normal everyday routine,it is a sign of depression.
The fatigueness experienced, is often the result of excessive rumination.
Parallel to fatigue is the inactivity.
You don’t want to involve in any of the work or even your hobbies.Nothing excites you and you want to lay on your bed all day doing absolutely nothing.It seems the perfect way to deal with the fatigueness you experience,but as we will see, doing so further deteriorates your condition instead of improving it.
During depression,if something feels the right thing to do,’do the opposite‘ because the feelings you would be experiencing, stem directly from depressive and destructive thoughts.
This one is easy to spot.
If you previously loved spending your time with your friends but, for some inexplicable reason,have cut yourself from them and want to stay alone for most of the time,it is a sure sign of you heading to depression.
Depression prevails and persists in the isolation.
You might be an introvert who loves spending a lot of time being alone and with himself and that is okay.The major difference is if you are involving yourself in any CONSTRUCTIVE activity.
Persons who have a flair in writing,arts,music,and poetry often dedicate a large amount of time being quiet and alone, but ‘they create something’ when they are alone and not disturbed.They don’t think about tragic events from the past or what they could have or should have done.
The depressed person on the other hand wants to be alone because he feels that his friends don’t love him or need him and are better off
without him.Even though,it sounds ridiculous to a normal person, these are perceived as absolute facts by a person experiencing depression.
So,if you ever find yourself trapped in these thoughts,know it is a symptom of depression and you need to get rid of these vitriolic thought patterns because these suck you in a negative downward spiral in no time.
The depressed person develops a hopeless stance towards life.
Everything and every situation seems miserable.He feels that he is doomed to live a distressed and lamentable lifestyle where no one cares about him and treats him unfairly.
He concludes that his situation is never going to improve and no matter what he does,his life is never going to be normal filled with jubilance and bliss.
If you have developed a hopeless opinion about your life and are convinced that your life conditions cannot be enhanced,there is a seventy percent chance that you are depressed.As I have asserted enough times on this site,your present circumstances are the results of your past actions and you can ALWAYS change the course of your action,hence improve your life in every way you want and desire.
Drill that on your head if you need to.
This one is huge.
If a person in any way romanticises death or dying,it is given that his depression level has reached to the bottom of the pit.
Romanticising death is a cry for help,an emergency help.
The person wants to seek comfort in dying and mistakenly assumes people will love him and give him the attention he craves when he is six feet under.
He wants to be noticed and taken care of immediately!
Death is NOT the solution to the problems.
It’s an act of cowardice and irresponsibility towards your life.Suiciding or attempting to suicide is the ultimate loosing.
Prowess lies in turning your life around if you dislike the way it is now.Valor is in creating your life your way.
If nobody gives a crap about you now,be very sure they won’t give
a crap when you die.
So put the idea of death or dying in order to garner attention and affection to rest and take responsibility for your life like a warrior.
EMOTIONAL OUTBREAKS AT INAPPROPRIATE TIMES
Depressed person also exhibits inappropriate emotions at the most inappropriate times.
It is often because he wants the attention and covertly hopes that somebody will sympathise with him,listen to him,understand him and love him.
Other times, the pent-up emotions which he has been keeping to himself are released when triggered by a particular event.If,for instance,a girl has been feeling ignored and unattended by her boyfriend for a while and suddenly he breaks up with her,it’s going to release all that emotion at one go.
Depressed people are also excessively melancholic and highly sentimental.
Expressing one’s emotions,needs and wants is healthy and required.They should NEVER be repressed because the ramifications are harmful.
So,if you repress your emotions and and become uneasy expressing your wants and needs in a healthy and calm manner, you are depressed or soon going to be one.
The depressed ALWAYS exhibits victim mentality.No exceptions.
What is Victim Mentality?
Victim Mentality is a psychological condition where in a person believes that he or she is a victim of the circumstances of life and the unfair world.
Everybody treats them unfairly.They don’t receive the amount of love they give.
They are not rewarded for their hard-work and look at all the sacrifices they had made for others and nobody even utters a simple gratitude!
They often feel cheated by other people and God (meh…).
This Ofcourse, is nonsense and is the result of their faulty belief system and illogical rationale which makes perfect sense to them.
If you constantly think that you are being treated unjustly both by your life and other persons,it is a symptom of depression firming its
roots in your psyche.
A depressed person either wants comfort and solace in any form or wants to run away from everything and forget about their ‘horrible life’.
What’s better to seek comfort in than a glass of vodka or a snort of crack?
The addiction (of cigarettes,alcohol,drugs) gets the person in a euphoric state which alleviates the depression for a very short amount of time and the problem is forgotten but NOT dealt with.
Turning to addictions is a coping mechanism to make the person blind to the problems of life.It doesn’t solve the problem in the long run and deteriorates the body as a side effect.It’s far better to learn to deal with the situations of life than burying your head in the sand.It strengthens your self-confidence and your self-esteem.
Depressed person is also emotionally codependent.
What this means is that he or she depends on the other person to meet his or her emotional needs.
Emotionally codependent persons are relationship seekers.They find it hard to be single and keep getting into relationships which are often unhealthy for them,just to fill the feelings hollowness that emerges as a result of being alone.
Being single IS healthy and one should be responsible
enough for oneself.
Relationship NEVER make you complete, you must be
complete yourself first to cherish being with the other person.
Being in a relationship just to cater to your emotional needs always end up in disaster.I’ve met a number of teens who are guilty of this one to a very, very large degree and it is extremely harmful mentality one needs to get rid of.
DEGRADING ACADEMIC OR WORK PERFORMANCE
If the academic or work performance of a person keeps getting poorer, it could be a sign of the depression.
I said ‘could’ because there may be other reason for it, like poor time management skills or disinterest towards the work.But if the performance of the individual keeps getting worse ALONG with the episodes of despondency,then it should be inferred that the person is suffering from depression.
Many over achievers suffer from depression after a blow of failure and as a result,their performance keeps getting dull.
FEELINGS OF SHAME
Feelings of depression are very often accompanied by the feelings of shame.
Shame is the feeling of being unworthy of love,affection and the bliss that life has to offer because one feels that one is flawed, or ‘broken’ in some way which needs to be fixed.
This is again based on faulty reasonings and poor evaluation of the life circumstances.Shame is a wide topic outside the scope of the post,which Iam going to describe in other post solely on it.
“I define shame as the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging – something we’ve experienced, done, or failed to do makes us unworthy of connection.”
Bottomline, shame is unhealthy and gratuitous which needs to be dealt with and we will address the issue in the coming days.
If you feel that you are flawed or don’t deserve love because you are
inherently bad or you did something ‘bad’, then it’s shame speaking.
LOSS OF APETITE
When a person is suffering from depression,his apetite amount is reduced to a significant degree,dangerously low actually.
Nothing tastes good and tasty but dull because the the person keeps thinking about his disastrous life.
If your diet has taken a massive hit,it may be a sign of depression.Tally with the above signs of symptoms and if they are present along with the other symptoms,then you can be sure about it.
There you have it.
It was heavy dose and chances are you may have one or more of these symptoms and there is absolutely no need to worry if you do, because it is VERY treatable and extremely easy,you just have to be persevere enough and have faith.Millions have recovered from it ( even me) and so can you.
In the next article I will tell you the signs whether you are suffering from depression for real or are you making it all up in your head.
Until next time!