This post is truly life-changing.You are going to learn some concepts that influence you on a daily basis,which when taken under control and manipulated according to one’s will,would lead to a better and more fulfilling life in every aspect.
Treat the information with respect and apply the knowledge presented here and watch your life dramatically improve.
THE PINK ELEPHANT PRINCIPLE
I know you have never seen or even heard about any ‘pink elephant’.The above statement holds a very precious concept you can implement with great effectiveness.
Also known as the White Bear Problem or Ironic Process Theory, is a psychological process wherein any attempt to suppress a dominating thought makes it more likely to become even more dominant.
In other words,you will always fail miserably if you try NOT to think about anything which is bothering you.
For the demonstration of the above principle,I would like you to NOT think about a pink elephant with a short trunk and large ears which it is flapping and flying blissfully across the sky.
What happened there?
I asked you to not think of a beast which does not exist but, in your mind, you actually ended up imagining it anyways.
This is because your mind cannot process Negative Statements without first making an affirmative positive image embedded in the negative sentence.
“I would like you to NOT “”think about a pink elephant with short trunk and large ears which it is flapping and taking a flight across the sky.””
Notice the positive sentence embedded in the above statement.
This means that attempts to not thinking about pink elephant will always result in thinking about the pink elephant.
This also means that if you try to subside or suppress thoughts of a particular nature or even obsessive thoughts about someone,you will always end up thinking more about it.Just like anxiety…the more you try to get rid of it,the more you give power to it.
How does it apply to your life?
The first,if you want to get rid of a thought,it’s futile trying not to think about it.The better route is to distract yourself with other thoughts or indulge yourself in any other creative and engaging activity.Your mind cannot focus on two subjects at the same time.Hence,when you are involved in an activity which requires some amount of concentration,the thoughts which you want to get rid of will be gone effortlessly.
Second important lesson to be learnt here is to minimize the use of negative assertions in your language.This applies to both-intrapersonal and interpersonal communication.
Instead of saying to yourself-“Iam not stupid“,begin saying “Iam confident and smart.“
Notice that the word “No” or “Not” is absent from the latter statement.
What this accomplishes is that your brain,instead of processing the word “Stupid” and associating it with the word “I“,it processes the words “Smart” and “Confident” and associates it with “I.”
Nothing bad is related to you.
Always make sure you give the correct instruction to the most powerful machine you possess-your brain.It is not evident on the surface,but your sub-conscious brain processes every piece of information presented to it.
While communicating with the other beings,it is essential that you direct their actions in an efficient manner.
Instead of asking someone something like-“Don’t disturb me“,present them with a statement like- “Let me finish my work.“
It will prove to be a lot more effective.
The idea is to distract or direct the other persons’ behavior and not ask them to avoid doing whatever it is they are doing because not asking them to do it will only reinforce them to keep doing it.
I see parents screaming at their children,almost twenty times a day-“Do not ‘watch the television‘” and then they wonder why the children always end up defying their call and keep returning to the idiot box.
Why shouldn’t they? After all, their minds are being programmed to do the opposite by parents themselves,even if unintentionally.
It’s not anyone’s fault though.
Rationalization,in psychology is the act of justifying or explaining the actions done by us or done to us.
It is a defense mechanism by which we devise excuses and reasons to avoid feeling regret for the actions which we do and for the actions which are done upon us by other persons.
Just read that again to make sure you get it.Even I got confused when I revised the post.So read it once more,taking your time to understand it.
Rationalization is backwards.
First we commit the action(s),either out of impulse or because of our tendencies, and then we justify our action(s) to abscond ourselves from the committed acts. It is an excellent tool of self-deception as it allows a person to not feel responsible for the events.
Examples of rationalization include:
•You didn’t score good marks in the examination and you fabricate the reason that “Paper was very tough.”
•You called your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend even when you know you should not, but again you tell yourself that you did it because you love her/him so much.
No sir,you don’t love her…you are desperate.
•You misbehaved towards someone and then you justify it by saying something along the lines-“I was in a bad mood.”
Rationalization is unacceptable because it covers up the truth.The truth,when accepted,compels us to become responsible for our actions.This is what most people want to escape-to accept responsibilities for their actions and consequently,their lives.
Understand that rationalising your actions in order to feed your ego or utilising it as a scapegoat will yield great harm in the future.It makes you delusional.
Start accepting your acts just the way you did them.Accept your intentions,true intentions, behind your every action and take responsibility for it.
One of my personal favorites.
(Pronounced as ‘AHK-uhmz’ razor) This principle was given by the 14th century logician,William of Ockham.
In it’s original Latin form,the principle is:
“Pluralitas non est ponenda sine necessitate” , meaning “Plurality Should Not Be Posited Without Necessity.”
What this means is that, in a number of explanations for a particular phenomenon occurred,the simplest one should be preferred.
Yeah I get it,you didn’t understand.
Let me clarify with an example.
Let’s say you are always late for work.There could be number of explanations for it:
1-The bus in which you travel,runs slow.
2-The entire route is always clogged because of traffic.
3-You didn’t wake up early enough.
4-You woke up on the wrong side of the bed.
5-The sun rose from the west.
Out of these conflicting theories,which one is right? All of them?Could be.
What is the simplest explaination to the presented condition?
If you,for once don’t lie to yourself,it is:
You didn’t wake up early enough.
Occam’s Razor is useful because it cuts the bullshit and uncovers the truth.When you know the real reasons behind something,you can work on it because,let’s face it,most of the excuses that we give to ourselves (and others) for our inabilities and failures are created by us.They have no substance.How do you explain superstitions?
Another example,your colleague got promoted but you didn’t. What are the possible explanation?
1-The boss is a biased jerk who always preferred your colleague because he was a sycophant;
2-Your colleague worked harder than you;
3-He looks better than you;
4-*insert anything here*
Out of the competing theories,which one is simpler?
I don’t know about you,but you didn’t work hard enough sounds plausible to me.
It’s like when someone asks you why do you eat food.What do you reply?
1-To keep reminding yourself how food tastes like?
2-Because you get hungry.
3-You consume it because you fear that aliens could invade our planet and make us their slave and don’t provide us with any food.*gasp*
Seek out the simpler explanations for things.Life is not rocket science.It’s simple.Don’t invent excuses to cover up your in-accomplishments.The truth shall set you free.
Don’t create pluralities in the explanations because it’s redundant and false and we both know it.
This law states that:
“A Man With One Watch Knows Exaclty What Time It Is.The Man With Two Watches Is Never Sure.”
The law cracks open the problem of indecision faced by us when presented with conflicting pieces of information derived from more than one source.
It’s like the paradox of choice-the more choices we have,the tougher it is to make the ‘right’ choice.
The conflicting information paralyses a person from reaching a certain conclusion.
The idea behind it is that, all the information you consume, at some point is going to contradict one another and when it does,you will have a hard time making the ‘best’ or ‘right’ decision.No matter which decision you take,you will always end up fantasizing about how things would have gone had you chose something else.
This is to not say don’t gather as much information as possible while making a decision.No,not at all.Instead,in my opinion it is best to have a lot of information before you take any decision.What I want to impress upon you is to be aware of the phenomenon of indecisiveness which could result from information overload.
The way to counteract this problem is to make a decision thoughtfully and then working on making your decision right.
Never get caught up in the world of “What Could Have Happened If…“
It’s over.Look at the horizon.
I repeat it again:
Make the decision first and then work on to make your decisions right.
Already explained in depth right here.
Apply these principles starting today and you will see a profound improvement in the quality of your life.
Until Next Time,
“We Learn Not When We Win But When We Lose.”